Challenged Marriage

Marriage. Does anyone really understand the constitution of a marriage? People get married for all the wrong reasons nowadays, whether its social obligation, tradition, a formality or whether its sexual attraction to the opposite sex that needs to be fulfilled. Some are done the conventional way others are more modernized. Regardless why people get into it, nowadays divorce rates are soaring through the roof. Why you might ask? Simply because people's expectations arent met. As they say your expectations alter your perception. Suddenly it's all not good enough. They expect a fairy tale ending, smooth sailing through life with no stormy weather anywhere in the future. People dont understand the meaning of compromise, sacrifice, being there for the better and guess what, for the worse too. I'll get to my point now, what happens when even normal people cant make a marriage work?

Recently i was approached with this subject. Can mentally challenged people get married and lead a life of wedded bliss?Even though they are mentally challenged they still have the same needs as ours but is that enough to determine their need for marriage? If it's a male we're talking about he'd still have instincts, needs, urges... etc. A female, she'd have maternal instincts, love, care, affection that she feels the need to let out but is that enough? What happens when you cant even tell if thats what he/she desires? What if you do get them married, but to mentally sane people? How do you know they'll do them justice? How do you know they'll treat them right? How would you know when you cant even tell when they're hurting cause they cant express for themselves? Is it worth the risk? On the other hand, thinking on the long term, you want someone to be there for them, care for them, provide for them, cause you never know if you'll be around long enough. Who are you to deny them from their simple rights? Then again what happens after marriage? What if she conceives? Dont you have a child to think of as well? Is it fair to them to have a mentally challenged father/ mother? Is it fair to make her go through labour in the first place? No matter who you choose, how careful you think you're being.. you're still going in this blindly knowing that whatever happens is on you. At the end of the day, his/her best interest is your top most priority. But how do you decide for someone who cant speak for themselves? Do you risk and try because you owe her a chance of having a family, a life or do you decide its no good for her and is out of the question?

Glam